You will never find time for anything, if you want the time you have to make it.

You will never find time for anything, if you want the time you have to make it.

“You will never find time for anything if you want the time you have to make it.”

I found this sentence staring back at me from the top of my planner the other day. It is funny to me the reminders that show up often to keep me in check of the things I am working on in my personal and professional life. This little statement is BIG and a source of contention in our house. I, ever the optimist and my husband, ever the pessimist often disagree on this subject. While I can move, shuffle and shake things around to make time for something important, he struggles with letting go of the schedule and commonly adds “ I don’t have time.” It doesn’t make either of us right or wrong we just prioritize our days differently.

I said the word prioritize, I know, are you SCARED? Let me add the word balance to that and I am starting to get a twitchy eye. Just kidding, in all seriousness, when we learn to make choices on who, what and when people and things get our time, we begin to find a little balance in our lives. I never said it was easy, actually, it is one of the hardest things I have done over the last year and a half. Finding the courage to say no to friends and family for this people pleasing “yes “girl has been a challenge.

What I have learned is that over time there is freedom in putting the things that are important first on my list. Freedom to be more in the moment, freedom to be focused, freedom from guilt and freedom to just be and be ok with that.

I am always reading and the last book I read was on priorities, you guessed it! It listed prioritizing in this order: spiritual, tending to your own heart, husband, kids, household, friends and then everything else. Personally, I do put my faith first most mornings and if adding coffee equals tending my own heart, then I have that mastered, but from there the lines get blurred.

After coffee, I normally feel like a dog chasing my tail as I get breakfast for my son, pack lunches, oh yeah let’s throw some laundry in, oh wait, a shower, why aren’t you dressed son, then comes the 5 minute warning and yep you guessed it running out the door late.

How many of us really take the time to balance our lives? How easy is it to stick to the plan you make? Making the plan is the easy part for me, following through is hard. Life happens and before you know it, I am back to tail chasing. Writing for me is a joy. I schedule a time to do it and distractions happen.

This post actually started 2 weeks ago and I was frustrated that I let something take over the priority. Then, the other day sitting in the sun I realized all I needed for the words to flow was sunshine and a peaceful spot. I could’ve given up on it but it brings me joy to share words with you. I may have let life plan me for a moment, but I refused to let it own me, and I tried again.

In closing, I sit in the sun at one of my favorite places, prioritizing and seeking balance in my heart. (Look, I’m tending me) and when I leave this space I will follow the rest of my plan for the day. Today may be good, tomorrow may be messy.

If you are one of those super organized people, I applaud you and am jealous. If you are not, just start one step at a time and plan. If and when you fall off the wagon, get back on, don’t beat yourself up, find your focus and DON’T feel guilty. Perfection is not what is expected it is in continuing to try that we achieve!

As I Began to Love Myself

As I Began to Love Myself

  Good morning, afternoon or evening, even middle of the night if that is when you are reading this. It has been a few weeks since I have posted anything, but you know, when you just aren’t feeling inspired it is hard to put words together. Anyone else ever have that problem?

   So, last time I was here, I was shouting praises to the She’s Still There book. This time I am just finishing up an online study of that book and going through it a second time!

  Can I just tell you, it amazes me how much you miss sometimes in the first reading of certain books and where it hits you the first time is not where it hits you the second time around?

  If any of you rushed out and purchased it last time, I am telling you, READ IT AGAIN! OMG!   The section I am currently on is all about our self-talk….hold on come back here, don’t run off yet! I know it is a touchy subject, but we are our own worst enemies most of the time.

  Last night as I was reading through Chapter 24 I realized all of a sudden why I have been in such a funk the last 4 weeks, I had simply been beating myself up over something I had to do, but in doing that “thing” I felt like I was quitting, failing and giving up.

  Now I don’t know about you, all of those things don’t sit well with me in my head. When was the last time you did something that needed to be done or delivered some hard truth to a friend, loved one or co-worker and even though you were simply being honest with them or yourself, you left the conversation feeling guilty?

  Sometimes, we take on the burdens of others and place blame on ourselves. It is realizing that you are only one person. It is the old saying of “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink” that struck me last night. Even though I knew going into the situation that my heart was right and I trusted the process that led me to the conversation I had to deliver, the feelings it left me with were sadness and a feeling of failing another person.  Unfortunately, those feelings spilled over into the last 4 weeks of my life. Doubt, uncertainty, and every mistake or moment of irritation quickly turned into a “you’re not good enough” moment in my brain.

 Yesterday afternoon, my amazing friend Melissa shot me a random text asking “how can I pray for you today friend?“ While I processed her request, I giggled at how she had no idea that I had been struggling with my own insecurities for weeks, but God did and he used her to reach my heart.

  So, as I read the designated chapter for the day last night, my heart screamedGIRL! YOU ARE PERFECTLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE!!!”  And this morning I awoke with words in my mind and sense of renewal and feeling inspired to share my words with you.

  As I end today, I would like to share a part of an article on Self-love by Charlie Chaplin: 

 “As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.

  As I began to love myself, I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today, I call it RESPECT.

  As I began to love myself, I stopped craving a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.  Today, I call it MATURITY. 

  As I began to love myself, I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at exactly the right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.”

For those of you, that would like to read the entire text, check out http://www.lifeintherightdirection.com/charlie-chaplin-began-to-love-myself/

Blessings and Hugs, Michele

Where did you come from? Where did you go?

Where did you come from? Where did you go?

Sometimes I wonder how I come up with this stuff! Laughing in my head to the “Cotton-Eyed Joe” title takes me back to a different time in my life. It was a time of freedom, laughter and a few moments I might like to forget.
Do you ever look back at your life and wonder where that carefree person is? I know I have. Then I wonder… How do I find her again? I am a podcast listener. I find new books to read, inspiration and occasionally get sidetracked with a shopping spree of some new company I learned about. One morning not long ago, I heard Chrystal Evans Hurst on a podcast, talking about her new book “She’s Still There“.  The title instantly caught my attention and by the end of the podcast, I was in my car yelling “YES, I FEEL YA GIRL!”

Please, click on the book to purchase this book on Amazon.

 

 

It wasn’t long before listening to this podcast that I had shared with a friend that I needed and wanted to take my life back. The problem was, I had no idea how to do that. Some of you might understand this feeling, waking up, looking in the mirror and wondering; when did I forget about me. How much time had passed and when did I become someone’s wife, mom, and caregiver to everyone but me! It seems selfish. In reality, it is honest. I love being a wife and mom to my people, but I miss those moments of exercising when it’s convenient for me, having time to read a book or practice a hobby, to just go sit quietly for a moment or go have dinner with a friend without feeling the guilt of taking care of someone else’s needs.

Have you ever just held a book and felt relief? While waiting for my book to come via Amazon (of course), I had discovered Chrystal’s podcast where she was telling her “She’s still there” story along with others sharing their stories. I learned I was not alone in standing in my own way and stuck in the middle of my own road afraid to make changes for fear of “what will people think”. While every woman’s story is different, she refers to it like AA in some aspects. The first step is the hardest; Chrystal writes “Hello. My name is Chrystal and I am a girl who has struggled with insecurity, battled promiscuity, experienced pregnancy outside of marriage, fought the fat demon regularly and wrestled with a sense of shame and insignificance because of it all.”

It takes courage to admit all of those things about yourself. I find her story fascinating and feel relief in her honesty. What is your story? Do you find yourself in the middle of your own road? None of us mean to end up in a job we hate for years, in broken relationships, out of shape and overweight, in financial hardship or receiving an unexpected call from a doctor or family member with illness striking you to the core. The good news is … This is YOUR life; YOU are going to be ok. Can I encourage you, just as Chrystal encouraged me through her book and podcasts, to take the first step: BE BRAVE, BE HONEST and TELL the TRUTH to YOU! Whatever you have been through, YOU are on the other side of it and guess what? YOU’RE STILL HERE!

The girl you want to be is depending on YOU, dig deep and grab her hand. “SHE”S STILL THERE” Rescue her!

Until next time,
Michele Lawrence

The Ticking Clock vs The Heart of the Matter

The Ticking Clock vs The Heart of the Matter

“Beauty Slowly Fades!” I saw this saying in the background of a webinar I was watching the other day. Still a couple of days later, I found myself questioning this statement and looking at it from a different angle.

  As women, we can be incredibly hard on ourselves. Come on, I know I am not alone here.  The mirror is our best friend and our worst enemy. The place we all go to evaluate ourselves from top to bottom. Wrinkles and grey hair might be where we start, then, before we realize it we begin checking out our sagging triceps, bottoms, once taut tummies and let us not forget the ever famous chicken neck! That’s right I said it, the chicken neck, the jowls, the “oh my, I look more like my mother everyday.”

The aging process is inevitable. When we look at ourselves superficially, it is easy to see each flaw. Next time you look in the mirror, SMILE! Watch your eyes glisten, feel your heart shine from the soul, feel your mood change. Think of the things you’re grateful for and the blessings in your life. While beauty may slowly fade on the outside, the beauty within can shine and be polished and last forever.

Today, take time to compliment another woman today on her smile, watch her face light up, watch the way she walks away with her head held high and know that you have added beauty to her soul!

From today forward, YOU tell your mirror about beauty don’t let it tell you! It only sees outside, BEAUTY comes from within!

Until next time,

Michele Lawrence

Hair We Go… My Journey with Hair Extensions

Hair We Go… My Journey with Hair Extensions

 Right before Chrysalis Hair Designs moved this past May, we started offering hair extension to our service menu.  Even being in the hair industry for 24yrs, I still wasn’t sure exactly what they were for, other than women who wanted long, flowing locks of gorgeous hair. What I have learned since we ventured into this service is that 75% of the people looking for hair extensions are women who have thin hair and want added volume, women whose hair has begun to thin and are feeling like they are balding, and normal ladies like myself, who want a little longer hair but lack the patience to grow it.

  If you have ever met me, you know I have always had short hair. My hair is thick and most often when I decide to grow it; it gets big before it gets long. In my moment of bushiness, I sit in one of the hair designers chairs and cut it back to a perfect, short cut that takes minutes to dry, perfect! The truth of the matter is, I desire to have a longer style but lack the patience. My husband Chris and I are getting ready to head out for a long weekend alone and I figured this was the perfect time to give hair extensions a try.  I would be away from my awesome staff of hair designers who could quickly fix my problem if I had any and be forced to give this new hair a chance. So far, one week in and I am in LOVE!

 Don’t get me wrong, there have been a few learning curves and moments of frustration, but that is exactly why I wanted to venture out on this journey. As the owner of Chrysalis Hair Designs, I feel it is important to know and try every service that we provide.  Typically, I am a guinea pig for most everything because everyone has to learn somehow and it truly is just hair to me.

Are you anxious to hear what I’ve learned so far? 

  • It’s real hair, but it is still attached to YOUR hair and when you pull it, it hurts a little
  • They type of brush you use make a BIG difference (Boar bristle is best)
  • When styling your hair, you might need to section off
  • Shampooing is weird but easy
  • Sleeping with hair extensions is no different than without them
  • Hair Extensions are FUN!

Are you feeling inspired to give Hair Extensions a try? Schedule your FREE consultation with Mollie at Chrysalis Hair Designs to transform your hair today. Perfectress is our preferred extension company. They offer tape in and connection hair extensions and are 100% real human hair. Hair extensions require an every 6-8wk commitment in order to keep them looking fresh and to preserve the quality of the hair.

 

 

 

Before Hair Extensions

After Hair Extensions